Annie Conboy, Psychic Medium, MA(Couns) MSWG

I love working with my team of guides. No matter how much I develop my psychic senses I know I will not get a Spirit link without their help. So the support & explanations they provide are vital.

People often ask the name of my guide & assume there is only one. However I have a lovely team of beings around me; each has their own specialism & way of working. My first guide, the one who came forward as I searched to connect to Spirit World, has stayed with me as my ‘bouncer’. He keeps low energy (negativity) away if I need him to. He also met me very slowly & steadily as our relationship needed time to develop trust. In fact, for most of the first 10 years I pretty much doubted & ignored him. But he was endlessly patient. And, in time, I trusted him enough for us to work together.

As soon as we were working easily together he stepped back.  Really I was ready for a new guide. Once again we had to build up trust. I was unhappy to be moved on when I felt I was working well. It was like learning to walk all over again. The new guide had a different energy & a new way of giving me information. So I chucked my dummy (pacifier) out of the pram! It took me about 6 weeks to realise that the change was right for me; Spirit wanted me to be able to work better for them.

Now I get guides popping in & out all the time. I don’t always have a more personal relationship with each one. I’ve learned to trust that the right being will be with me with the right skills just for whatever I’m doing. So I’m proud to work with a team & be part of a fascinating journey. At the heart of any work to develop mediumship is your relationship with your guides. They are the ones who get you through the bumpy bit at the beginning. They help you build your confidence. The more you pay attention to them & acknowledge them the better Spirit contact & messages will flow.

People also ask me how they will know or identify when a guide is around. As the relationship between Medium & Guide is personal I prefer not to tell people who their guides are – even when I sense, see or hear them. It’s a bit like meeting someone you feel might be that ‘special’ person then your best friend/mother/their mother proceeds to tell you all their likes/dislikes. It really takes the excitement of discovery out of the relationship. It also makes it harder to trust as you have someone else’s opinion parked in your mind.

There is also the chance that I will give someone a stereotype instead of the reality. Tell people they have a Native American guide & most of us will imagine a man, probably a medicine man or chief, in buckskin trousers, bare chested & craggy faced. So the little old lady in a blanket shawl with a careworn face who is really the guide might be a bit of a let down. Or she may feel very restricted being forced to appear as a man! Not a good start to a relationship.

Sensing your guide(s) will depend on which of your psychic senses is the strongest. And the connection can be quite ‘light’ at first. Perhaps a flash in the corner of your eye as if someone is standing at your side. Perhaps an itchy, tingling feeling at the end of your nose or across your head. Perhaps even a buzzing noise in your ear. Sometimes a person seen in dreams. Or an eye just as you drop off to sleep. Try to accept anything that seems to be contact. If it is, it will happen again. If it’s not, at least you have shown your guide you are willing to start a relationship.

Love & Light

It’s always hard to be sure where you are when you are on a spiritual journey. Sometimes you feel you are progressing nicely; sometimes you feel stuck. Sometimes the progress is amazing. Sometimes everything seems confusing, or painful, or out of control. Yet there are signposts and guides available if you choose to look, listen or ask for them.

One of the hardest parts of the spiritual journey can be to look inward. We are all bright, loving Spirits encased in a clay overcoat. But we forget that as we get on with living a material life. And our material life is driven by patterns, expectations and masks. We fit somewhere along an axis of ‘Holier than thou’ to ‘Humbler than thou’. By this I mean we fluctuate (through ego interaction) between being ‘better than’ and being ‘less than’. It can sometimes seem very challenging to be ‘What You See Is What You Get’. In counseling terms – to be ‘congruent’ with one’s self.

So when we open up to our Spirit and the Spirit World, or the Angelic or Elemental Realms, and to the Divine, as mediums, one of the difficulties is to balance the ‘ego’ vehicle with the Spirit driver. The ego vehicle has learned to think for itself on auto-pilot. It is familiar with being in control – taking the Spirit wherever the ego feels it is best to go. Yet when we awaken to our true Spirit nature and become self aware it is like the driver saying ‘I’ll take over now.’ The autopilot puts up a struggle – usually based around ‘You’re not competent/expert/ clever enough’ and we slow our own progress. If we overcome the tendency to doubt our ability then the ego often steps in again to tell us  ‘You’re the best/greatest/better than’ and we slow our own progress once again as we strive to compete to prove that point.

Only by being aware of these ego traps can we be guided to an inner balance. A place where we can accept our qualities without judging ourself or others; where we understand our true human nature; and, where we can accept our own shadow side. Helping us are the Spirits & beings of other Realms. They gently nudge us to act in our own highest interest. If we become WYSIWYG (wizzywig!) we are authentic and real for the people we hope to help. We are also authentic and real for the Spirits we represent.

So when progressing through your Spiritual journey listen very closely to yourself.

Do you act or react out of a pattern?

Does your ego present you with ‘Holier than/Humbler than’ information?

Are your thoughts on comparing or competition?

Do you know who you are ‘warts & all’?

How often do you offer yourself & others unconditional love & unconditional forgiveness?

Being human is not about perfection. Our imperfections are part of out lessons & lead to our spiritual growth. Acknowledging them and learning from them is at the heart of our spiritual journey. Are YOU at the heart of your clay overcoat?

These are my notes for anyone attending a Spirit reading with me. I’m posting them as it’s not always easy to work out how to find a reliable Psychic or Medium. The best recommendation tends to be from a person you know who has had a reading from that particular Psychic or Medium. Or you might have had the chance to see the person do some work in public for example in a Spiritualist church, at a Mind, Body, Spirit fayre or in their own show.

If you want to have a reading with a particular Psychic or Medium you can ask if they have any guidelines or written explanation of what will happen in the reading. You can also ask if there is anyone they have had a reading with who you can speak to to get a recommendation. Also ask what they do if you feel your reading is not satisfactory. And finally, although this is not a guarantee, you can also ask if they belong to an appropriate association.  There are very many excellent Psychics & Mediums all over the world so do your homework. Then go along with an open mind & enjoy your reading.

“If you are thinking of having a sitting but feel too afraid don’t worry. Annie is excellent & understands you can be apprehensive, but makes you totally at ease.” Judith

Private Sittings are a way for a Medium like me to use Spirit Communication and bring forward the Spirits who take an interest in your life. You can see demonstrations of this type of communication at Spiritualist Churches or during Evenings of Clairvoyance. The only difference in what happens, when you come to see me personally, is that your Sitting will be held in private.

Please note that when contacting Spirit there can be no  guarantee of  who will come forward to work with a Medium. Spirit Communication is experimental – the Medium makes herself open to the Spirit World and has no say over who will be waiting to speak to you. Most people feel they have had a positive experience in attending a Sitting but if you feel you have not please say so.

“I had a private reading with Annie. I thought the experience was brilliant. People came through & gave messages. A lot were very relevant. I felt this was a very positive reading and quite emotional. I would recommend this to anyone.” Jo

Quite a few people think that a Sitting will be like having someone tell your fortune or your future. That is not possible! My job is to give you evidence that life continues beyond death. By doing that I can also pass on messages from the people who cared for you when they were alive. They will not pass on anything to worry or upset you but they do want you to know that they still care and want to be of assistance to you.

“It made me feel better knowing I could contact loved ones on the other side” Katie

So that you can be clear that the contact is from the Spirit World I prefer not to know anything about you before you come for a Sitting. Usually all I know is your name! The Spirits who bring their messages tell me what they wish me to pass on  – and only that. They will respect your privacy as they would have done in life. I don’t need to know details to  communicate what they would like you to know about the situations affecting your life. Also, working in this way, Mediums very rarely remember what has been discussed in a message. If you have any concerns about confidentiality please let me know.

“I really wanted my Dad to come through but now I understand why he can’t do just yet. Having my Grandma explain about how the Spirit World works & passing on his message was a special experience.” Louise

You can help your Sitting go well. Keep an open mind and send your thoughts out to all who know you in the Spirit World (and some of these may be people you only knew briefly or family members who actually passed before you were born!). Ask them to come to speak to you. Be honest if you can’t understand anything I say or describe. Spirit are only too happy to give more details.

Finally, it may seem strange that during the Sitting it helps me if you only tell me “Yes”, “No”, “Don’t Know” or “Maybe”. Since Spirit want to do the talking you need to leave the Sitting knowing that I have not given you back information you have just given to me.  Afterwards I will be only too happy to discuss any confirmation of what I’ve said on behalf of Spirit.

There are always a lot of questions about what psychics, mediums & clairvoyants do. Some people think that they can only get Spirit messages from clairvoyants, some that psychics can tune into Spirit and many who just get confused by all the names floating around. This is my explanation – you don’t have to accept it. We are ‘thinking beings’. I would be delighted if you use my explanation to think about what you understand or believe psychic & Spirit contact is.

Put at it’s simplest:

A Psychic has the ability to read the aura (or energy system) that we all have around us as a physical individual. Because we can’t see it or touch it most of us are unaware of it’s existence. But it is there. And someone who has opened up to the information coming to them through their psychic senses can ‘read’ the energy & tell you what is most probably going to happen. They can also tell you what has happened, what is happening at the moment & the things your energy is trying to draw in for you in the future. This is NOT fortune-telling.

An experienced Psychic can also link through you to the energy of all those who are connected to you or around you e.g. lovers, family, friends, workmates, neighbours. By ‘reading’ the energy of the people around you the Psychic can also see where their interests can be the same or different to yours and so how ‘probable’ your wishes & hopes are since your life choices are directly affected by the people who are around you.

Psychic readings pick up on YOUR agenda – what you would like to have happen in your life – checks this against the agendas of the other people around you and then gives you the best ‘probable’ outcome. We all have FREE WILL so we can choose what we do. That is why no-one can tell you your future. If you don’t like the sound of what you have been told you will do something completely different!

A Medium is someone who has opened up to the aura of the people physically present in this world and also to the aura of people who have died. People who have died are in the ‘Spirit World’ and can come into the aura of a Medium to communicate. Mediums get this communication by seeing (Clairvoyance), hearing (Clairaudience), sensing (Clairsentience), knowing (Claircognizance), tasting (Clairgustance) or smelling (Clairalience). So someone who is a Clairvoyant gets messages more strongly through seeing pictures/figures/words/symbols etc. But all forms of ‘Clair’ can be used by an experienced Medium at one time or another.

Spirit readings through a Medium pick up on SPIRIT’s agenda – what else may be happening in your life that you have ignored, failed to notice or have lost sight of. Spirit readings should always contain evidence that is personal to you about the Spirit who has come forward or about yourself. The Medium should be comfortable with you only giving Yes & No responses as Spirit should be able to explain in more detail anything you don’t understand. In my experience Spirit always want to give a message so that you can understand issues or aspects of your life better. They do not tell you to do anything in particular & they cannot make decisions for you. Remember, we have FREE WILL & will do exactly what we choose to do. That is why Spirit do not tell you your future. If you don’t like what you have been told you will do something completely different!

Before you have a reading please think about why you are going.

Do you want to be told what to do?
A reading will not do this.

Do you want to find out if your family & friends are in Spirit World?
A Spirit reading will do this.

Do you want your fortune told?
A reading will not do this.

Do you want some insight into the issues you feel you have in your life?
A Psychic reading will do this.

Do you want to test the reader by only getting a particular piece of information?
A reading will not do this – you may reject all of the good information you are given as the one item you want may not be given.

Do you want to get all of the support that is available to you so you can look at life as clearly as possible?
Both kinds of reading will do this

1)  Wishful thinking can make you believe a lot of rubbish.   Suffering is a killer for those watching.

2)  There are a lot of mediums out there who are still paralyzed by fear and worried about failure. Self doubt is a cripple.

3)  There are a lot of budding spirity people out there with a little knowledge, who make judgments about others. Must guard against it myself.

4)  My guide is happy to let me do all the talking.  No change there then!

5)  Twin flames can be very lovely but also a pain in the bum.

6)  I have always given others the benefit of the doubt, forgiven, allowed them to make their mistakes knowing how greatly it would impact on me, and understood why they do what they do. Must allow myself the same grace,
whilst at the same time, feel the pain then drop it. Easy peasy! Thanks Deepak Chopra.

7)  Sometimes spirity people know a lot more than they let on about and even when asked a direct yes/no question, don’t answer. No doubt have to answer my own question. Perhaps even stop asking questions and go with the flow.

8)  I am a lot smarter and kinder than I have ever given myself credit for.I wont believe anyone who tells me I’m not again, but at the same time will keep my blinkers off……….easy!

9)  I am carrying around a lot more baggage than I realised. No wonder my body is knackered.

10)    Sometimes the spirit world just want to come through to let you know they are there and that they love you. They really don’t mind being bothered and it doesn’t have to be for a very profound reason.

11)  This spiritual healing can make you feel proper selfish.

12)  These reiki atunements don’t half make you barmy and feel shocking.

With Love, Light and Laughter

Thank you for sharing with me Jean & making me think.

Sometimes we get to walk through a challenging period in our life and wonder how we survive without going mad or sad. For the last 3 years I’ve been supporting my partner as he has tried to make sense of the way his employer has treated him. He has had several spells of illness due to stress and the depression it has brought on. Sadly, he has never found it easy to talk to anyone about his feelings so the counseling he has accessed has been more of a sticking plaster than anything. I’ve been more lucky. My friends have been my saviours. They have listened endlessly & patiently to my feelings as I’ve struggled to support my partner & myself to stay optimistic.  So I know that talking really helps.

Yet my poor blog has had to suffer – talking publicly about what has been happening hasn’t been an option as we were in the Employment Tribunal process & didn’t want to create more problems. Now that has ended & I’ve got free time to post again (both about me, my work & about how life is going). And we will not know the outcome for about 4-6 weeks. So, to my good friends, expect me to do still more talking ….. & to my blog friends, expect me to start being more up to date.

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